How do black people feel about mixed relations? Here’s what 16 public figures have to say

I was born and raised in France and I grew up with people from others nationalities; French, African, Arabs, Italians, Spanish, Portuguese. I am open-minded as well as well traveled. My belief, very simply put, is to listen to your heart and soul and choose someone you connect with. Am I naive for thinking that way? Should everyone stick to their own kind? Could dating others be a good way to learn and understand others cultures? What do you think about interracial relationships?

I’ve asked 16 Public Figures from all parts of the world and here what they have to say:

                            Derry Luca, Barcelona

I think it’s great, I also believe there will be more chance of racism cancelling itself out with more interracial relationships. It’s beautiful thing.

                                 Lydia, Berlin

I think interracial dating is a beautiful thing. It’s symbolic to building bridges, learning from one another and growing in consciousness. I believe deep down we all share the same essence, that’s why it never bothered me to date man with different backgrounds. Love is beyond race.

                        Léon Showman, Toulouse

Être avec une personne d'une autre culture c'est un enrichissement comme cela peut être perte de repère pour sa famille. Mais la chose la plus importante quand l'amour s'en mêle et que les êtres se découvrent... on oublie les couleurs, les yeux ne regardent plus que l'âme et avant même que nous le décidions, nos âmes dansaient autour du feu.Je comprends ceux qui ont besoin de vouloir se retrouver entre-soi, se protéger des anciens malheurs, d'apprendre à chanter les chansons de nos ancêtres à l'unisson. Et qu'importe le chemin que nous prenons c'est toujours l'amour qui aura le dernier mot.

Being with someone from another culture can be an enrichment or a possibility to lose the sense of belonging to a family. But the most important thing when love comes into it and people find themselves... We do not see colour, the eyes are the gateway to the soul and even before we decided, our souls danced around fires. I understand those who feel the need to stay among themselves, protect themselves from the woes of the past and learn to sing in harmony the songs of our ancestor. And no matter the path we take, love always have the last word.

                                  Noah, Reims

                                                        

Je pense qu'on vit aujourd'hui dans un monde ouvert et se mélanger pour moi est une bonne chose. Se mélanger permet aussi de s'ouvrir aux autres et d'apprendre d'eux. Ca peut rendre la communauté plus forte si on prend le positif des autres communauté et l'utiliser pour être plus fort.Je pense qu'il est important d'être fier de sa couleur de peau et de sa culture même si on se mélange.

I think today we live in an open world, and for me, mixing with others is a good thing. Mixing with people enable us to open up to others and learn from them. It can build a stronger community if you take the positive aspect of other communities and use it to become stronger. I think it’s important to be proud of your skin colour and your culture, even if you mix.

                             Zuby, Southampton

Interracial dating doesn't even truly exist because human beings are all the same race. Most of us have just been brainwashed over centuries to believe otherwise.

                              Vera, London

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Having lived in two different societies with different influencing factors my view on interracial dating would be mostly that two people from different ethnic backgrounds dating would mean they both can learn more about each other’s culture. Love shouldn’t be based on colour, character or shade of skin.
Dating shouldn’t be about colour or race it should be about love.
What matters the most in any relationship Is love, understanding and happiness.
If he or she makes you happy, no matter their race or skin colour  you should go for it. Love is blind, love sees no colour or race.

                                    Joel, London

It has been centuries that people/communities from a country go and settle to another totally different country or continent. It is well known that mixing blood makes it stronger. Mixing cultures always has been a thing. Interracial is another beautiful thing that life offer, and everyone should try. We would all learn from it.

                             Marlinstarz, London

                                                               

I acknowledged that there are multiple factors to what opinion I could possibly have on this: what my thoughts are on interracially dating when it applies to Me and secondly when it applies to others. When I consider others, I have to be a lot more sensitive because I think it’s important for me not to initiate that somebody *Should* do something or that they are better off doing so, as there are many circumstances including the other person’s experiences that I may not be aware of. Like what are their experiences whilst dating inside their race? Does this have trauma attached?

Myself personally, I love and admire dating within my race and will continue to do so, with the intention of marrying black. ‘Black love’ is great to see, but genuine love is equally beautiful to see. Don’t feel pressured to stay anywhere if you don’t have to; love and respect is mandatory no matter the race.

                               Latoya, London

I've never dated before but I am open to interracial dating. I believe any man of any race can make me happy and I am okay with keeping my options open to anyone who can show me the love I deserve.

                               Nyaetta, London 

I don't have an issue with dating outside of your race. It's always good to learn about other people culture especially the one you love. The problem isn't dating

about outside of the race or culture, the problem is that at time they do, they tend to attack their own race. I feel that everyone should be given the chance to try new things, there's nothing wrong with that and I am glad it's commonly accepted now in today's society. But always remember where you're coming from and respect your own people.

                                   Gigi, Florida

        My man treat me like a princesse doesn't cheat, won't settle for basis or bs that's where it's at.

                    Anjanette, Miami/Los Angeles

Things Are Not Always Black Or White, when it comes to mixed relationships... Society usually focuses on color...Black vs. White, Asian vs. Black, White vs. Indian, etc. But there’s that beautiful gray area when two souls start blending together...as we follow our mental state of mind, desires of life and our loving hearts...which tends to have no color in mind. That’s what I feel about my relationship when I’m with my love...we’re truly color blind! I’ve been in a loving relationship for over 4 years now.  Although we both come from different backgrounds...we’ve blended our cultures together beautifully.

                                Jordan, Memphis

              Interracial dating isn’t for me. That’s it. That’s all.

                       Anthony, North Carolina

Interracial relationships are not objectively wrong. It’s a union that is subjective to the persons involved. However, it is radically provocative to the cultures, customs and traditions of the societies/parties involved, especially that of the black race.

Love is beautiful and wholesome, but not the foundation of a relationship. And so, while those that intend to be in a union may love each other, is that really enough? The foundation of relationship is the choosing and commitment to another, and through honest and loving efforts, love will blossom. The good of interracial relationships is that they “attempt” to bridge racial and cultural gaps, and also, prove that love is blind. Or is the desire for it a fetish?

                               Damon, Dallas

I am for interracial dating but I also feel that each person needs to understand when you engage in an interracial relationship you need to be prepared to protect each other at all cost because the world won't see things the way you do.

                            Nduku, Johannesburg

Love has no colour. The fact that we are in 2021 and still answering such question is a sign that there is something amiss with the human race, and to an end to this, dating should not be based on race. Therefore I am for interracial dating.

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Vanity Afro 01/04/2021