I grew up in Paris and in the suburbs but the majority of my friends were white so I was often self-conscious of saying my first name at first, because of bad jokes like being called yaourt au chocolat (chocolate yogurt in English) or mild bullying. My dad also gave me a nickname, YouYou.
Salma Shama Ali is North Sudanese with African and Middle Eastern heritage. Salma loves her first and middle name but would love if people could pronounce her first name properly. She grew up in Kent, England, in a predominantly white area and while in school no one could pronounce her first name Salma.
Teachers would say to her “I’m going to call you by your middle name Shama as it’s easier to pronounce. Salma respect her middle name a lot as it was her great grandmother’s name who was from Syria but the now London based, would have preferred to be asked: "Would you prefer to be referred to as your first or middle name?”. So often when you are young and don't know how to express yourself about this, you just accept and move on, so Salma did, even though her feelings were hurt.
First names can connect families just as much as last names can sometimes even more. They are often passed down through generation after generation. Other times, they are used to ensure a mother's maiden name lives on in some way.
Esmeralda comes from Equatorial Guinea, which was colonised by Spain at the time of colonisation. Her country is the only Spanish-speaking country in Africa, hence the origin of her name Esmeralda.
Her grandparents really liked precious stones and Esmeralda, Spanish for Emerald, was one of their favourite stone so they loved it as a name.
She spoke about a memory when she was little and her father always called her "Bola" which means daughter in the Bubi dialect, the tribe where she comes from. Esmeralda likes Bola because it makes her feel alive and proud of her tribe.
Hervé was born in Mali of Malian parents descent but was adopted at birth by an unconventional white couple who traveled all over the world. His Malian birth mother was a fervent and active member of the Catholic Church, it was therefore important for her that Hervé had a catholic name.
Hervé is a French masculine given name of Breton origin, from the name of the 6th-century Breton Saint Hervé. Apparently, it means "eager for battle or strong and worthy “.
Now, London based Hervé also have an African name, Sékou. In the Malian language Sékou means, “He who has left.” Hervé was called Sékou until he was five. At five, Hervé and his white parents left Africa for France. It is then that Sékou decided to be called Hervé instead. The reason behind Hervé's choice was that he was scared that his new French classmates would mock his African name. He kept the name of Hervé since.
Lidiaana comes from Eritrea where it's common for people to have both a first name and a middle name. She goes by the name of Segen Lidia. Segen represents the graceful ostrich, symbolizing beauty, while Lidia is a biblical name that means 'Beautiful one' in Greek.
Lidiaana lives in Germany and her name has been consistently
mispronounced, she feels that it's often disrespectful.
She adores her name, but back in 2008, she made the decision to switch it up to
Lidiaana. The reason behind this change was that her beloved grandmother passed
away that year, and her name was Ana, which means 'Grace'. So, she thought it would be a beautiful tribute to combine their names and
create Lidia Ana, which eventually transformed into Lidiaana.
Lidiaana initially wanted a name that was more common to avoid any mispronunciations. Looking back, she now realises that she should have corrected people whenever they mispronounced her name.
Fabrice Essomba "My parents gave me a European first name because of the influence that France had over Cameroon" said Fabrice based in London.
Cameroon was a German colony until it falls to the French and British during World War I.
Surnames are an important part of Cameroonian identity, representing one's family, community, and profession or social status.
Duc Doe "When you are born in our Togolese culture, automatically you have a first name linking you directly to the day of the week of your birth" said Duc, based in the county of Northamptonshire.
He was born on a Monday so his culture automatically gave him the first name Kodzo.
His Dad also gave him the name Duc as a middle name because of his fascination of the English royalty. He loved the Duke of Wellington, and his first name Duc is the French equivalent of Duke.
"I think my names are cool and elegant. I can relate to any male born on Monday in my homeland Togo. Also, Duc harmoniously and majestically sound lovely when accompanied by my surname Doe.
What about you, how do you feel about your name?
Vanity Afro 11/02/2024
Great article. I can really relate to the stories of being born outside UK with a weird name. Even though my name is short and should be easy to pronounce, hardly anyone get it right. Bullying at school was second nature which I learned to overcome and am now very proud of my name and heritage.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your support, I appreciate it.
DeleteSalma hard to say GTFO
ReplyDeleteSalma is relatively easy to pronounce.
DeleteGreat article youyou! xx
ReplyDeleteThank you.
Deletelove you youyou very interesting article ❤️
ReplyDeleteYes agree very interesting. Thank you. Incredibly thankful to the contributors. Lots of love!
DeleteVery interesting article. Wow you are insecure idk kinda want to be insecure like that you are blessed in so many ways x
ReplyDeleteHehehe "was" is the key word. I would not describe myself as insecure now.
DeleteA very interesting perspective on how powerful names are, and the value they hold to each individual. Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteThank you for reading and taking the time to comment.
DeleteGreat post you are still so beautiful, powerful only confident people should be around you because the weak will try to destroy you. Miss u so much xx
ReplyDeleteAwww thank you darling, such a lovely comment. I have great memories of us and I miss you too.
DeleteI have a very untypical Polish first and last name, nobody in the UK can pronounce. It warm my heart when someone make an effort to pronounce it. Love this post, very interesting.
ReplyDeleteYou hiding behind anonymity so we don't see your name.
DeleteI am proud of my origins but I am not blaming anyone inability to pronounce foreign names. My first name makes my life easier so why would I want a complicate one that would add only frustration and struggle? I enjoy reading this, that was fascinating. Thank you for sharing.
ReplyDeleteI appreciate your thoughts. I believe that if you have value to offer, I am not suggesting you don't, everybody will make an effort to say your name the way you want it to be said. Thank you.
DeleteThank you for replying to me. We have very complicated Chinese first names, if you are not Chinese you will not be able to pronounce them. Even if it is only 3 syllabus foreigners say you Chinese have difficult names.
DeleteFair enough. There are names, do not have to be Chinese that are find challenging to say that's more an accent thing the way I sound. Names like Heather, Harry, Holly!
DeleteI wouldn't worry you sound sexy. I am in love with the way you say Martin.
DeleteFrench accent is so cute.
DeleteBonsoir Yaourou, c’est très beau post par son authenticité et l’intimité que tu partage. Derrière un prénom, un surnom, au delà de ses quelques lettres il y’a souvent une longue et intense histoire, un combat. Congrats et merci pour cet instant de lecture.
ReplyDeleteOhh merci Mathias pour ton message ça fait super plaisir.
DeleteGreat article, names chosen for us can have a real influence on us in childhood, I love yours YouYou, both versions, especially the meaning and despite childhood bullying you have matured into a wonderful woman in so many ways❣️My ancient greek name, Charis (with a silent ‘h’) is often mispronounced and now I just smile when called Claris, Harris etc etc etc 😊
ReplyDeleteThank you sooo much Charis for such a kind comment!! Gosh Harris.. That a whole new name and a man name.
DeleteBeautiful woman be proud of your name
ReplyDeleteYes. Be proud of your name.
DeleteI have always been able to pronounce your name Yaourou, because you are so special that I made the effort to get it correct from the moment I met you. Simple. A unique name for a unique girl. 🥰
ReplyDeleteCiao bella, io adoro il tuo nome Yaourou ed adesso che conosco il suo significato ancora di più. Adesso se potessi cambiare il tuo nome con un nome qualunque, quale ti piacerebbe?
ReplyDeleteTanti stranieri, tranne te adoro il modo in cui pronunci il mio nome, non riescono mai a pronunciare il mio nome. Lucrezia, Lu cre zia, non è mica difficile! 💕
Grazie Lucrezia sei gentilissima solo da questo commento lo si percepisce :) Quand'ero ragazzina volevo cambiarlo ma adesso non lo cambierei. Ciao!
DeleteWhy should we change our names? we don't see pakistanis, indians change their names. Rishi Sunak kept his name and he is the Prime Minister. People make effort to say eastern european names that dont even have vowels I mean add a vowel for FFS they are white that is it! but African names are way easier smh
ReplyDeletelet's be proud of our African names respect to those with no christian name 💪🏿
People should just fucking ask if you they are saying your name right. I speak as someone whose name is pretty basic but still gets some sheer ignorance and a misplaced sense of superiority. Ta-yee-ra simple xx
ReplyDeleteI guess people will ask if the energy is friendly and they feel at ease. Thank you.
DeleteI been to japan nd ur name look japanese yasuko yokuto yayoi yaourou all look same
ReplyDeleteYaourou comes with a capital Y. Names, countries and nationalities are capitalised too. Japan. Japanese.
ReplyDeleteGreat article! I can definitely relate. I was born outside and having a difficult name to pronounce. Great to hear everyone's views on this subject.
ReplyDeleteThank you.
ReplyDeleteAmazing 👏🏻
ReplyDeleteThanks!
DeleteI am Anastasia, no Ana.stay.sia nor Anah.stah.sia people please you coild try make to pronounce correctly. And no it can't be shorter to Ana 😊
ReplyDeleteThank you Anastasia. Where are you from please?Just curious, exciting on how this post attract people from all over.
ReplyDeleteI am from Russia. Great article very interesting 😊
DeleteThank you so much!
DeleteI've enjoyed reading this and I think your name is fitting Yaourou. You are a truly beautiful woman in and out. You made me a better person and teached me so much. I admire the you in you.
ReplyDeleteYou helped me understand myself better and for that I thank you.
Some of y'all need spiritual growth & training in Lord Jesus Christ. God's family is our true family just as the family you grow up in shapes your identity such as your name, beliefs, and values, being part of God's family is a new identity. Amen thanks for sharing and God bless you ✝️
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing your thoughts. God bless you.
DeletePraise Jesus. There's power in the name of Jesus. That break's every chain y’all better start taking God serious. Jesus Christ is Lord! Amen ✝️ Happy weekend y'all
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